At what age did they do it for the first time?

For teenage girls, the choice of the first partner is very important. A meaningless experience, lived only on a mechanical or sexual level, without tenderness or even with brutality, can leave bitter disillusionment and even, in some rare cases, lead to frigidity later on. It would, therefore, seem important to know your partner well and not to be content with a passing relationship to throw yourself into the water. It is necessary to give time for a sentimental story to develop (without even talking about love or passion). The first time will be all the more fulfilling as it will have been preceded by long complicity, and by sexual games without penetration which will be in a way a less anxious way to try.

FIRST KISS, FIRST REPORT

For 75% of the girls, it takes place between 11 and 16 years old (average 14 years old). The first sexual intercourse occurs on average around the age of 17.

THE CHOICE OF THE FIRST PARTNER

For girls

• 67% with their boyfriend,
• 14% with a boyfriend,
• 13% with a passing encounter.

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For boys

The responses are relatively similar

• 68% with their friend at the time,
• 23% with an understanding girlfriend,
• 2% with a friend of the parents,
• 1% with a prostitute.
• 79% are in love at first intercourse compared to only 53% of boys.

Among girls

The sentimental or emotional dimension is fundamental. They give themselves to prove their feelings or not to lose the one they love and to establish a lasting relationship with him. A girl who does not give anything concrete always has the fear of seeing her friend go elsewhere, to live a more committed sexual adventure.

Teenage girls do it too: out of sexual desire because they have to do it because their girlfriends have already done it. For the transgression of the forbidden, by provocation towards the parents. To exorcise the guilt over badly experienced masturbation. To assert his power of seduction. For all these reasons at once...

In boys

The starting impulse is primarily sexual desire or the desire for performance and challenge. The desire to prove to oneself and to others one's virility. Adolescents often do this to be in the clan of those who are no longer virgins. It is also to know how one does it and therefore not to be kept apart or be forced to invent stories that could make you suspect that you are still a virgin.

As the sexologist Gilbert Tordjman rightly summarizes it: The boy starts from sexual desire to reach the feelings and emotions of love while the girl follows exactly the opposite path.

FIRST ORGASM

22% of girls have an orgasm the first time, and 75% of boys.

Contrary to boys, most of whom obtain an erection and ejaculation right away, for girls, the revelation of sexuality requires a real learning process that sometimes lasts for years.

PLACE OF THE FIRST DATE

In almost 60% of cases, this takes place at one or the other home, in 4% of cases at the hotel, in 4% by car. The last ones took advantage of dead leaves in a public garden, a nightclub, a sauna, etc.

THE MEMORY OF THE FIRST TIME

The first experience passes, the memory remains, idealized, fantasized, or feared. The first imprint is fundamental and could, according to sexologists, condition all future sexuality and subsequent fulfillment. For young girls, this first experience is particularly charged with intense emotion and value as for boys of initiation rite.

Did you remember your first time and how was it?